Trailer Hitch And Wiring For A 2023 Toyota Highlander XLE

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Im looking for a tow hitch kit for my 23 toyota highlander xle I see the recommended product but it has 2 options which say “exclude xse” or “xse models” which would be the proper product for my vehicle? I also need the 4way wiring kit for trailer hauling for the same vehicle if I can also get that recommendation? Thank you.

asked by: Rafael M

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Hi Rafael!

Our website can be a little weird with stuff like this, so I understand the confusion. We have a few hitches that will fit the XSE and a few that will not fit the XSE, but most will fit either option. When one says "exclude XSE" as well as "XSE models", they are the ones that fit both.

I am not sure which one you were looking at, but I recommend the B&W Trailer Hitch Receiver - Custom Fit - Class III - 2" # BW62PR. Pretty much all the hitches we have for your 2023 Toyota Highlander XLE have the exact same capacities and install difficulties, but I like how this one goes together. And it's American made!

For the wiring, I recommend the Tekonsha T-One Vehicle Wiring Harness with 4-Pole Flat Trailer Connector # TK99FR. I have found Tekonsha to make the most reliable wiring harnesses, so they are the ones to go with. Just keep in mind this is for vehicles that do not have the factory towing package (you will need to check with a Toyota dealer and have them run your VIN if you are unsure if you have this or not). If you do have the factory towing package, you will want the Tekonsha T-One Vehicle Wiring Harness for Factory Tow Package - 4-Pole Flat Trailer Connector # TK74FR.

What are you going to be towing?

expert reply by: Lazer S

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Lazer S.

9/29/2025

Hi Rafael, Did you have a chance to decide on the hitch and wiring harness for your Highlander? I’d love to hear what you chose and how it worked out for your towing needs. Your experience could really help others in a similar situation!

Answer 1

Hey Aaron, great question! The Trailer Mate Trailer Hitch Receiver #TMT67FR is definitely a budget friendly option for a hitch on your 2026 Highlander. This is basically the economy line from Curt. The welds are a little different (but will still do…

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Answer 2

The most hidden hitch for your 2022 Toyota Highlander Limited is going to be the Curt Trailer Hitch item #C99FR. The Curt hides the crosstube behind the bumper so all you see is the receiver tube opening and safety chain loops. This hitch is custom…

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Answer 3

For a 4-way wiring harness for your 2022 Toyota Highlander Platinum Hybrid without the tow package you need the T-One Vehicle Wiring Harness with 4-Pole Flat Trailer Connector #TK99FR. When it comes to wiring, we have found Tekonsha to be the most…

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Answer 4

Hi Thomas! We definitely have hitch options for your 2021 Toyota Highlander XSE. Our site is a little confusing with how we break that out as not all will fit the XSE model, but most will actually fit whether you have it or not. So with that said,…

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Answer 5

Hey Joseph! The Curt item #C45CR requires you to disconnect an exhaust hanger temporarily, but it gets reinstalled a couple steps later. It's just to get the hitch to the mounting bolts behind the muffler. This hitch is custom fit for the 2022…

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Answer 6

Greetings George, I understand your confusion, and I get this question a lot. The Curt Trailer Hitch Receiver - Custom Fit - Class III - 2" #C99FR fits all models of the 2022 Toyota Highlander. So yes, it will work great for your XSE model.…

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Answer 7

Hey Tom, The verbiage is a bit weird because the whole category is separated on whether or not it's compatible with XSE models so most will say "excluding XSE models" and "XSE models", meaning that it can work with both. For…

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Answer 8

We had the chance to install the EcoHitch part #EH35VR on a similar 2022 Toyota Highlander to your 2023 model and we found that it fit well and we were able to reinstall a full size spare underneath so it would work great for you.

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Answer 9

Hello Dan, We can most definitely get you set up to use your Redarc Tow-Pro Liberty brake controller in your 2022 Toyota Highlander. Since you were looking at the #ETBC7, I’m assuming your Highlander does not have the factory tow package. To equip…

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Answer 10

The difference between the Class II and Class III hitches has to do with their Gross Trailer Weight (GTW), their Tongue Weight (TW), and their Hitch Receiver Size. Class II trailer hitch receivers have a 1-1/4 inch receiver and can be rated up to…

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Answer 11

A 4-Way trailer connector has the basic lighting functions only; running lights, left turn signal and brake lights, right turn signal and brake lights, and ground. A 7-Way has these functions and a 12 volt circuit, a circuit for electric trailer…

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Answer 12

In order to determine the torque rating for the lug nuts on your trailer you will need to know check out the chart I attached that shows all of the torque specs for all the trailer lugs available based on stud size, wheel material and wheel size.

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